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Mary Friedel-Hunt


Mary Friedel-Hunt, MA LCSW, is a freelance writer and psychotherapist
in the Madison area.She can be reached at This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.
or P.O. Box 1036, Spring Green, WI 53588.

Change: a part of life

By Mary Friedel-Hunt

Change. It is a part of all of our lives. Nothing, absolutely nothing stays the same. Our bodies develop new cells regularly. Our attitudes change, as well as our beliefs and values. We change where we live, where we work and where we play. We marry and divorce, in many instances. Our kids are born, changing our families. Loved ones get sick and die.

Our neighborhoods change as new homes go up and old ones get painted. Stores change as new ones sprout up everywhere. We change cars, clothes, eating habits and more. Flowers blossom and die. Trees change color. Seasons come and go, as do holidays and sacred moments. All is fleeting. 

Tuesday, September 11, 2012 2:48 PM
The autumn of life
By Mary Friedel-Hunt

Labor Day has come and gone and with it the summer of 2012. Now we enter the most beautiful season of the year — autumn with all its grandeur, crisp, cool air and blue skies.
Many of you who are reading this are in another kind of autumn, i.e., the autumn of your life, as am I. It is the time when all our hard work comes to fruition. It is harvest time. It is time to enjoy all the wisdom we have acquired. If we haven’t already done so, it is time to let go of caring about what other people think and it is time to slow down and relax a bit, something we should have done many years ago.

Tuesday, September 04, 2012 3:21 PM
Christmas in August?
By Mary Friedel-Hunt

It is Aug. 20 as I write this column. Tonight, I saw my first Christmas ad of the year on television. It was a cruise line advertising Christmas trips complete with holiday decorations. Then I saw another and it was then that I realized, instead of seeing Christmas ads at Halloween time, we will now start to see them in August. How does one even give Christmas a thought in August?

Tuesday, August 28, 2012 2:28 PM
The gift of creativity
By Mary Friedel-Hunt

I attended a concert at Frank Lloyd Wright’s Taliesin Hillside Theater on Monday. We who live in Spring Green never take this venue for granted. It has a certain mystique about it and this was especially true when Effi Casey, a member of the Taliesin Fellowship and a friend of mine, fulfilled a dream by conducting a 50-voice choir and small orchestra as they performed Carl Orff’s Carmina Burana. Some of us attended the same performance the following evening in a larger space at a local church.

Tuesday, August 21, 2012 3:27 PM
Inspired by so many
By Mary Friedel-Hunt

The Olympics are over and millions of us have watched young athletes inspire us with their dedication to training and excellence. I mostly enjoyed watching the gymnastics as Gabby flew through the air and as those young men and women demonstrated the discipline necessary to their sport.

Tuesday, August 14, 2012 3:14 PM
Summer to fall
By Mary Friedel-Hunt

The last month of summer! I, for one, will be glad to see this summer come to an end if — I repeat, if — the fall weather is what most of us are used to: sunny, cool, crisp days filled with blue skies and, yes, some rain now and then.
This drought and the extreme temperatures have worn people down. The corn is a mess, gardens are a mess, and we are all tired of the heat. If we look at the temperatures, summer started in March this year and is never ending. I know I am not alone as I long for the cool and crisp days of autumn — if we get them.

Tuesday, August 07, 2012 5:39 PM
A hierarchy of needs
By Mary Friedel-Hunt

I cut the fern down in early July because it dried up and died in spite of my watering it twice a day. The high temperatures were just too much for it. My hydrangea did not produce its normally gigantic flowers and the hibiscus struggled to bloom and then wilted as the sun beat down on it in the 100-plus degree temperatures early this month. Even my incredible maple tree took a beating. And when we finally got a storm in late July, the lightning struck and split one of the two trees in my backyard and the wind took the top of the other one, leaving my backyard empty of trees.

Tuesday, July 31, 2012 5:41 PM
The wounded healer
By Mary Friedel-Hunt

My niece is celebrating her 37th birthday today. I remember when she was born. It seems like yesterday. Today she is a lovely woman, a clinical social worker with many skills and a generous and caring heart. Like most of us, she has walked through her own pain and come out stronger and more compassionate for having done so. She, like many of us, is a wounded healer.

The term wounded healer was originally coined by Carl Jung, whose colleague, Kerenyi, elucidated the archetype which refers to one who is willing to face, consciously experience, embrace, assent, and say “yes” to the mysteriously painful new place in themselves where a wound has led them.

Tuesday, July 24, 2012 2:27 PM
A time of transition
By Mary Friedel-Hunt

Today is a big day in my life. I sent my last issue of my publication to press yesterday and so begins a period of retreat for me. As I look back on the past two years, I realized that since Bill died I have not really taken a break or stopped pushing myself. Bill got sick six years ago and died two years ago and I come to this day completely worn out and in need of a long break. That break begins on July 17.

Tuesday, July 17, 2012 2:56 PM
The next step
By Mary Friedel-Hunt

July 4 is a big day in our country. I have celebrated it in many places and in many ways through the course of my 72 years. As a kid, in Park Forest, Ill., we decorated our bikes with red, white and blue crepe paper and entered the village parade. In the afternoon the neighbors put their grills in the center of our courtyard and we all had a huge cookout followed by a water fight. In the evening, we sat in our front yard along with many friends, watching fireworks that were set off in a nearby undeveloped field.

Tuesday, July 03, 2012 3:35 PM

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