IT HAS BEEN said, strive to do your best and you will be surprised by how much better your life is. You will feel good, and be respected and trusted. Strive not to be a success, but rather, to be of value.

When we strive to be of value to a person, we generate faith and trust in their hearts for ourselves. The faith goes a long way and gets stronger with time.

Sometimes, there is no substitute for experience. The old man cited in the following story said, “I can only repeat what my father said to me and the outcome is up to you.” I clipped this story from a sister paper in Bolivar, Tenn., in 2002. It was a column written by Rubye Yopp titled “Kaleidoscope.” It did not identify the original author of these “words of worth.”

A man of advanced years could be found almost every afternoon resting on a certain bench at the edge of a lake. One afternoon, a young man who had been aimlessly wandering down one path and another joined the silver-haired seer.

Neither made an attempt at conversation for a long time. The old man sensed the youth had a lot on his mind. “Want to talk about it?”

“Well, I have been thinking about how I really want to count for something. You know, I would like to really be ‘somebody,’ ” answered the young man.

The wise old man thought for a while, then said “My young friend, in order ‘to be,’ a person must always strive ‘to be sufficiently.’ ”

The young man was puzzled “Be sufficiently? Sufficiently what?”

Here is what the old man said. He was drawing from his years of experience.

Be sufficiently wise, recognize your faults and do something about them; brave, take what’s coming to you and try again; strong, bear the burdens of life and carry the weight of others; humble, admit your shortcomings and learn from those who know; kind and gentle, understand and love the young and old.

Be sufficiently patient, keep at it if you have decided to complete a specific project; educated, able to judge the worthwhile from the trash; prosperous, meet your financial responsibilities plus a little more to help fill the needs of those less fortunate; independent and optimistic enough to believe in your own abilities and in the possibilities of the future.

And remember to strive to be sufficiently religious to obey the Golden Rule. Religion is meant to be bread for daily use, not cake for special occasions.

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CAN A truly discriminating “car guy” be somebody if he drives a Ferrari that has a measly base price of $507,300? What would your friends think if they knew?

How dare Ferrari offer a Ferrari SF90 Stradale high-tech hybrid gas-electric vehicle that lacks basic amenities? If you really want the full Ferrari experience, it will cost you $663,623.

Imagine pulling into an exotic car show driving a flashy SF90 Stradale that doesn’t have $156,000 in luxury options. If you have the means to drive a Ferrari, how must you feel if you order the fancy ride that doesn’t have all the bells and whistles?